If you have to make up rules, boundaries, guidelines for another person to engage with you or others, best not to engage with them. The reason is that you would set up verbal barricades is to protect yourself.
Sometimes we are not meant to all get along.
Sometimes it is too dangerous to engage mentally, emotionally, physically, energetically for yourself, others, and for the person in which verbal barriers are being made.
And because we have made these rules of engagement, human tendencies are to tear down, break down and go against rules so what could possibly go wrong when “the engage” starts with you protecting yourself and setting up “the rules of engagement.
We spend to much time in failure energy which we are constantly using to engage.
Me, personally, in the past spent most of my waking life trying to get along with everyone. Everything outside of me was much more important than what was inside me. I spent far to much time getting along than following my inside, my dreams!
Sometimes it is better to walk away, change directions, let go, refocus, restore, regenerate then to use energy and time in ways that produce failure.
Always be kind.
Talk to yourself more.
Set the rules and boundaries for yourself, that way you will know when to disengage because YOUR matters most!